Authenticity = True Freedom

Authenticity & Freedom

Why should anyone care about being authentic –meaning being true to themselves, in every situation, at all times?

Changing how you appear, gets you what you need in life, sometimes, right?

At interviews, you’ve got to put on a different face to get the job, right?

When you first start dating, you’ve got to put the honey to attract, right?

And when you visit you in-laws, you’ve got to filter you mouth, so they don’t hate you, lol.

If in the end, we get what we want out of these facades, why should we care about being authentic?

Why YOU Should Care

Well, for those gurus, and happiness success stories out there, I’m seeing the common thread of authenticity. The problem is, a lot of us don’t even know ourselves fully. We’ve been “putting on” for so long, just to get by in this society, that we don’t even know what it feels like to just relax and be ourselves, in EVERY SITUATION.

The funny thing is, those that claim to have happiness in their lives, attribute part of it to their authenticity. When they feel they don’t have to compromise who they are, to get where they want, there is a true alignment between being and having a happy life.

Think about it.

Even when you get what you want --that job, or that relationship, or that approval…YOU aren’t really getting it, the “personality you put on to get it” is. So in order to keep that thing, you would also have to keep the “person” that auditioned for it. Make sense?

So if you are in a relationship, where you weren’t yourself in the beginning, and it all worked out fine, you have to keep being that person for things to keep being fine. That’s why a lot of relationships end in disappointment…because when our true colors come out, the other person is shocked to find out that you would behave in such a way. It can be painful for another person to process your actions, because who they thought you were, isn’t a reflection of who you are showing up to be, now.

Growing and maturing over time is a process that is usually easier for people to digest, but when you, all of a sudden, just flip into your true character, that is when it can difficult for people to process.

Now think about this.

If you walked into this relationship as YOUR TRUE SELF, and you all worked out fine like this (assuming the other person was being them true selves, as well), don’t you think the relationship would last much longer, and would stay satisfactory, because the both of you were always YOU, from the beginning?

Furthermore, even if you did grow apart, or decide that you weren’t a right fit for each other, it would be much less painful to end the relationship, because you were being honest with yourself, and so was the other person. When we accept who we are, and who another person is, it is much easier to accept when something isn’t working. It is a lot easier to let go of something that doesn’t align with who we are, because we understand that, and it doesn’t hurt so much.

You can apply this same philosophy to any situation in life…

At your job, if that job wasn’t the right fit for you, and you find yourself struggling to be excellent, or getting in trouble for making mistakes all the time…might it be because the REAL YOU wasn’t actually a good fit for this job. You may be able to perform the functions, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be good at it.

Why You Should Aim To Be More Authentic In Your Everyday Life

When we strive to embrace who we truly are, we open ourselves to the greatest things in life. Opportunities that may have seemed like a great fit, might actually be the worst fit. When we mold ourselves to fit the opportunity, instead of accepting who we ARE and what opportunities are BEST for us, we forfeit the ultimate blessings in life.

That goes for marriage –if you pick someone who you just settle for, or that fits the ‘façade you put on when you first met, you’ll have to keep up the façade to keep the relationship going.

The reason why we should stick to who we truly are, is because this is what grants us true joy in life. If we go for what WE truly want, we can truly enjoy what we have. Not that we aren’t grateful for what comes to us, but we should always be striving to be in alignment with WHO and WHAT we truly are.

…because with that comes great joy, lasting joy, and authentic happiness and freedom in life.

So I hope you take these words with you today, and use them to your best ability. Everyone deserves to have abundance in this life, and if you’ve been denying yourself that, because you’ve been denying YOURSELF, you can make a decision to be YOU today.

With love and blessings,

Chan

#freedom #authenticity #blessings #opportunities #lifecoach #wantbetter #dobetter #happiness #joy #enjoyinglife #howtoenjoylife