Let Go...

Some of the things we go through in our lives can have some extremely, traumatic effects. So much so, that for years we start to become a different person because of what has happened to us. How many people have you seen go from being this bubbly personality, with joy and laughter, to this depressed soul –walking around with their head down?

Its All In The Response...

We all go through challenges in life. It’s inevitable. Every person will experience pain in their lives, at some point. But it’s how we respond to it, that matters. If we allow painful experiences to keep us down, we will live a miserable life existence --guaranteed. If we decide that we will not allow this ‘thing’ to keep us in the dark, we move forward –able to live, love, and enjoy life.

It sounds so simple, right? Something happens, and we just decide to suck up our tears, and paint a smile on our faces. Some of you already do that, but it doesn’t stop you from crying in your bed at night, when you’re all alone. Some of you paint smiles on your faces, so that others don’t know you are suffering inside, but the truth of the matter is…you aren’t really living. You are just surviving.

Well guess what?

There’s another way to live, guys. Yes, it’s true. I once thought otherwise. There was a time in my life, where I felt I was doomed to misery. I looked at my family members, and saw them 20, 30, 40 years down the line, experiencing the same sad circumstances, as I was going through at the time. I thought, IS THIS ALL THERE IS TO LIFE? It can’t be.

And it wasn’t until I actually saw transformation happen in people’s lives, as I worked in the mental health clinic, that I started to believe change was possible for me. I started to wonder what they were doing to go from looking depressed and drained, to happy and full of energy. So I went on a journey to discover this very thing...

I discovered the underlying answer. Let go of what has happened to you. This doesn’t have to mean you forget about it, because you can use those experiences to teach you something. Whether it be, to be more alert, or to be cautious of the people you let in your life, or the choices you make about your environment –I learned that you have a choice.

From A to Z

I saw people work through their emotions, and process how this made them feel. Doing that allowed them to be able to move on with their lives. Avoiding the emotion, or soaking in it for years and years, stops so many people from living a fulfilling life and enjoying everything beautiful, that life has to offer.

It’s so amazing, what I’ve discovered, about life since I’ve learned to let go of the things that have happened to me in my past. I’ve let go of an abusive childhood, an abusive marriage, friendship losses, jobs, toxic people, and the list goes on…

This wasn’t something I learned to do before, so I just sat in my misery, as the sensitive person I was, cried all the time about how horrible life was. Once I learned how to let these things go, I haven’t stopped finding my peace, and enjoying the little moments life has to offer, ever since…

What I Want For You

This is what I want for you. I want you to let the people, the losses, and the pains of your past, GO. Need help with releasing it? I’m always here to help. But you can also start by talking about it with a trusted friend, praying about it, or writing about it in a journal. Write or discuss how this made you feel, and what you got out of the situation. Did you learn what you want out of friendships? Did you learn what you don’t want out of relationships? Did you learn what kind of job is wrong, or right for you? Did the trauma lead you to an education or career path, you now love? Did the pain of it make everything else seem much easier to handle?

There’s usually ALWAYS something that we can take from every experience, if we truly look at it. This is my challenge to you. If there is something you are holding onto, today, that you know is hurting you –keeping you from everyday joy…I want you to let it go. If you are still in it, start thinking of ways you can resolve it. If it’s already happened, start thinking of ways you can begin to release it.

This Can Be You Too!

Those people who live life, worry free, know how to do this. Those who have great peace, have learned this. Those who find great joy and happiness, possess this skill. I want this for you too. So, challenge yourself, work through it, learn the skill, and begin to enjoy life, in ways, you never thought possible. I promise, it's worth it!

With Beauty & Growth,

Chan at the [BOG].

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