Will This Matter In A Year

Chan Crawford
Dec 21, 2017
3 min read

Wanna know the secret to decreasing all that stress you deal with on a daily basis. I read this one day, in a book, and my life hasn’t been the same, since…

Will this matter in a year?

All those problems you have at work, in your relationship, with your children, at church, with your spirituality, with your siblings, with your boss, with your coworkers, and the list goes on…

Will it really matter in the future? When your boyfriend wants to play video games when he gets home, instead of spend time with you…will that matter in a year? Yes? Okay, so this is something you need to address. Is there some compromise you can reach? No? Maybe this is a relationship you should reconsider, if this is something that will be a problem for you, a year from now.

Will it matter in a year, when your sister doesn’t show up to the family gathering? Not really? Then why are you pressuring her so much? Why are you continuously arguing with her about it? Or in hindsight, why do you keep bringing it up?

I had a best friend in middle school, that would talk on the phone with me when I first received a cell phone. I didn’t yet know what regulating minutes meant, so I ended up running the phone bill up. My dad was so angry, and held onto it for almost a decade (lol). Every time I brought up her name, he would remind me of that incident, keeping him bitter about relationship interactions, in so many other situations. It didn’t start there, but it was one of the more extreme examples of how worrying about something that happened years ago can effect you in the long run.

Why get yourself worked up over things that will literally not matter in a year? All the stress over…what? Creating unnecessary wrinkles. Increasing your chances of having a heart attack. Decreasing your anger management skills. All this over trivial things, that won’t matter later.

WHEN IT SHOULD MATTER

When your values are compromised, you should be concerned. There are so many times when we concentrate on smaller things, and ignore the bigger issue at hand. We go off on our siblings, because we don’t address the violations we experience in our partnerships. We take our anger out on the kids all the time, because we keep mum at work so that we don’t lose our jobs.

Evaluate what is truly valuable to you, and work to address and resolve it, as soon as possible. Otherwise, let it go. Stop worrying about little things. Stop holding onto people and situations that will not serve you well. Stop arguing with your parents about a personality trait, that hasn't changed in 50 years, and will not change. Let it go. Accept when others won’t do what you want them to do, and let it be. Stop working yourself up over stuff that doesn’t matter. Realize that you can’t make others do anything, ever. You can only change yourself. If you don’t like something, do something about it, or let it go and move onto something worth spending your time, money, and effort on. Learn to enjoy more of your life, by doing this. There’s no need to walk around miserable, when you can just simply let things go, and live more worry-free.

If you need help, I’m always here to advise you on the change process. Self-awareness, and assertion will help you resolve these things so that you can live and enjoy the life you deserve to have. Honoring your values will never compromise your joy…so choose them instead!

Until next time,