Problems Are The Best Teachers

BeautyOfGrowth
Dec 19, 2017
3 min read

BUT only if you let them be...

Okay folks, let’s take a minute to talk about problems. Money problems, marriage problems, kid problems, school problems… Let me tell you something about them. They all happen for a reason. Your job is to figure what your contribution to the problem is. If you have no contribution to it, it isn’t your problem. If you do…figure it out. Self-reflection is one of the biggest allies you have in life.

The problem isn’t the teacher itself, it is your understanding of the problem, that teaches you. Only if you are willing to admit your part in it, will you learn. Questions may arise such as: Am I arguing with my husband because my expectations are too high? Are my expectations of others too low? Did I spoil my children too much, and they stopped respecting my authority? Did I let my girlfriend get away with walking over me too much, and we can’t respect each other equally now? Did I get a little lazy this semester regarding my study habits? Did I start hanging around negative people? Have I let my habits effect me negatively? And the list goes on...

Often when we take a good look at the problems in our lives, we can figure out what we can do to solve it. But only if we are honest with ourselves. Therapists, psychiatrists, and doctors may get paid to tell you what you are afraid to be honest with yourself about. But honestly, we can save our money and time if we get honest with ourselves first. Every day, I encounter people who complain about why certain things are happening in their lives. However, they’ve never sat down and admitted to what they did to get there (at least not to my knowledge). They’ve never admitted to themselves, that they can save themselves from heartache, trouble, and stress. If they did, they failed to take the action needed to resolve the problem.

Of course some of these problems do require extra help. But you’d be surprised by how much of it you can resolve yourself, if you are just willing to be honest with yourself.

I just wanted to give you all a little food for thought for today. Is there a problem in your life, that you haven’t been honest with yourself about? Have you placed blame on outside circumstances? Your boss, your friends, your partner, your money situation? What can you HONESTLY do to get out of it? Do you really want to solve it, or do you want to continue to complain about it, just so that you can hold onto the title of being a victim? Sometimes, we can do that on accident. So many people hold on to past hurts, or misery, because they don't know how to let go of being a victim. It's not on purpose, most of the time. Having people share concern, and being able to gripe about something that was done to you, is a reward that we often overlook, but reach for much too often. That's something we've got to be aware of...remember? BE HONEST.

The only way we can learn from our problems is by using them to grow. This is why I made this company, BeautyOfGrowth. I wanted to help people grow and learn in life. I wanted people to stop thinking of life as some miserable existence that only serves punishment. Life is meant to be a beautiful experience. There are so many beautiful things we can explore, including the inside of our minds. If we take a serious look, we can often see how we’ve arrived at the place we are in life.

Now think about it. Is there a problem YOU need help with? As a life and transformation coach, I am here to help you solve it. If you can’t seem to figure out the factors that may be negatively affecting your life, I can help you. But first, I challenge you to do some self-reflection on your own. Consider every possible solution to your current problem, and look back on how you got there. What decisions have you made to get you there? Are there now different decisions that you can make, to change the direction of your life?